so it’s been about half a month into the new year. i’m still hearin people talk about last year’s memories - the good times, the messed up times, the ‘i-shouldnt’ve-done-that’ times and the ‘i wish i did more’ times. it’s all good, ain’t nothin wrong with reminiscing. but i had a conversation with a friend last week who wasn’t just reminiscing anymore.. but was basically stuck in a time capsule and was lonely as hell.. they were holding onto somethin that’s been long gone for years. we all know everyone says - “quit looking back… move on. leave the pieces on the floor etc etc”. i guess that’s sorta what i’m tryna say.. again i repeat ‘sorta’. this time i aint talkin bout the pieces or the bad times. im focusing on the good times. when the pieces aren’t on the floor.. but on a perfect picture frame up on your wall. you know those times when everything was real good. you had the best friends.. all you ever did was laugh, chill out and have fun. you kept havin those moments that you felt shoulda been in movies. you could relate when singers sung about the best days of their lives and you’d jump around fist pumping to the beat with your friends. but hold up *snap* that was then.. this is now. everything’s changed.. people changed, circumstances changed.. nothin aint fun anymore and you’re sitting here lonely wondering why? wondering how? and the only time you feel good is when you’re thinkin bout them memories? yeah i was stuck there once. i was stuck there for a long time. i know there are so many people who can put their hand up for this same thing. the thing that finally got me over it was realising the simple fact that PEOPLE GROW UP.

here comes that irritating word that everyone seems to dread - change. thing is, staying in those past moments and reliving them again to a point where you forget or deny who you are right now isn’t healthy anymore. while sitting there thinkin about what was.. you end up missing out on opportunities that could possibly be even better than what you used to have.

‘what could be better than what i had? than what i used to know?’ you’re sitting there asking.

if you’re asking this. at least do one thing. ask with an open mind knowing that things you don’t know yet, could potentially come and be so much better than the memories you hang onto. if you ask with a closed mind. you’ll sit there and still sulk over memories and not see the good things that are coming closer. see, why pick being miserable over excitement? don’t be boring. better things are coming. it’s the start of a new year. a new beginning. let go of chapter 3 or chapter 7 in your life cos a new one’s about to begin. 2012 is where it’s at!

i’ll leave you with a picture. imagine you’re in a car and you’re the driver. whether you drive or not in reality is irrelevant. right now you’ve got the steering wheel ok? every now and then, you check your rear view to check what’s behind you.. maybe you saw somethin pretty on the side of the road and you wanted to take a second look. you only take a peak but you have to look forward again eventually or else you’ll crash. most of the drive, you should be looking through the front window. this my friends, is the best way to deal with memories. the car is your life. you’re the one who chooses where to look. sometimes it’s alright to look behind.. but most of your focus should be infront of you so that you can be clear about the direction you’re heading. that’s the whole reason why your front window was made to be so much bigger than your rear view :) keep lookin forward. HAPPY 2012 EVERYONE!

- Krishelle Miaco-Galang